Sound Doctrine for Women (Part 3)

Titus 2:3-5 

The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;

That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,

To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

As Paul continues his discussion about speaking sound doctrine, we come to a few things that really stand out about our society today, and show us that we are headed away from what Go d would prefer into a world where mans’ ways are more important than God’s ways.   Please don’t get me wrong here.  The men have some pretty weighty r3esponsibilities they are lacking in when it comes to sound doctrine.  I am not trying to put the blame on women.  I am merely saying that of all the areas of sound doctrine we have gotten away from, these next few items are probably the ones we have travelled the farthest from.  The result is devastating in our society.  So let’s look at the final entry on sound doctrine for women, specifically for young women.

Be discreet.  Oh my.  Have you seen the fashion world these days?  Have you seen the magazines and tabloids on the shelf?  Have you seen the commercials on TV?  Discreet is a word that is lost on out society today.  And it’s not just on the things we see, it’s in the words that we here said as well.  Discreet means “careful and circumspect (unwilling to take risks) in one’s speech or actions, especially in order to avoid causing offense or to gain advantage:  intentionally unobtrusive (not conspicuous or attracting attention).  Can you see where we have fallen to on this piece of doctrine.  There is no shame in young women talking about their periods, their sex lives, their disdain for others or anything else.  There seems to be no shame in putting down and making oneself feel better at the expense of others.  There is certainly no shame in showing off every curve and large areas of flesh to look sexy.  Our society puts demands on women to look attractive far more than they do with men.  It is sad to say this, but the women fall into this trap as well.  I must be the right weight, wear the right clothes, agree with the right people and walk the right path.  But the path many are walking is not sound in God’s eyes.

To be discreet means to speak with grace and modesty.  It means to be careful what words come out of our mouth and how much of our womanhood is revealed to others through actions, appearance and words.  It means to not speak of things that are offensive in nature, but to keep those to a quiet conversation with a spouse or close friend.  It means to take heart what we say about others so that they are not offended or put off by the words that come out of our mouth.  Discreet is a lifestyle not whim.  It is a well thought out plan to be as quiet and considerate in all areas of life as possible.  The definition says not to try and gain attention, or to be inconspicuous.  I have to admit I don’t see a lot of young women who follow that pattern.  They are taught by society to try and look the best, dress the best and draw attention to themselves.  Modesty is lost on many of our young women and sexuality is exploited.  There is nothing wrong with making yourself look attractive – please don’t get me wrong here.  We all should strive to look our best on a regular basis because this too brings honor to God.  But honor is what it supposed to bring.  And being discreet is the way to accomplish that.

Be chaste.  This certainly has gone out the window, and not just for young women.  The admonishment here to young women should really be extended to us all in this day and age.  We are in terrible condition when it comes to being chaste.  Oh, maybe you’re not sure of the definition here.  Chaste means “abstaining from extramarital, or from all, sexual intercourse: not having any sexual nature: simple and restrained.”  Today, children start sexually experimenting before they hit double digits.  Young girls are having babies in their early teens.  One-night stands are rampant and hooking up” is so common it is appalling.  In 2019, a survey showed that 38.4% of high schoolers had participated in sex.  The figures are about 25% in ninth grade, rising to 60% as seniors.  The fact is that these figures are down across all demographics in the last 30 years which is a good thing.  But even thought that is true, the lack of discretion today is far worse than it was 20 years ago.  We are in a downward spiral.  Nearly 40% of all births are out of wedlock today, compared to 28% 30 years ago.  Guys and girls are just not willing to wait until marriage to have sex.  In fact, recent studies seem to show 95% if couple have sex before marriage, and that has not changed in decades.

I know – that’s a lot of numbers thrown at you, and it really does not show a pattern of degradation in our society, if we really look at it.  What is different. In my eyes, is that it is flaunted a lot more.  It is not as hush-hush as it used to be.  We are not as discreet, and chaste is a word that has pretty much left our society.  America is at the top of the list when it comes to these figures on sexual activity.  I pray we can learn to do better, especially when it comes to discretion.

Wow, I spent a lot of time on those two points, but I think it necessary.  The sexual revolution of the 70’s has brought about drastic changes in the way we view sex, and the opposite sex.  We have strayed way off course, and I for one would like to see us head back to shore in this wandering boat.  Men and women need to be more discreet, more chaste, and Godlier.  If we cannot find our way to do that, these values could be totally lost in the future.  Our culture is descending into a pit of sexual openness that could tear us apart soon. Now, LGBTQ must be accepted.  There is a growing move to lower the age of connect.  There is a movement to call pedophilia a sickness rather than a crime.  We will see these things being magnified more and more, and we will see the sexualization of our children continue until someone stands up and loudly decries “That’s far enough.”  Tio be honest, I don’t think many will listen.  Young women, if you are reading this blog, please don’t take offense.  All I ask is that you prayerfully consider these words and then do your best to be discreet and chaste ion all you do, and young men should surely dop the same.

Part 4 on the young women will wrap this up.  I never intended to go this long on these poor young ladies, but I just sit and write what God puts on my mind.  I rarely know exactly where it will lead when I start out.  I hope you are being blesses by these insights.  See you tomorrow!

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