3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Okay, let’s finish his up for the women today. He really brings out some things that need attention in our society, and I find it interesting that even the first century church needed this admonition. I always pictured those days as ones where women would be ingrained with these principles. But Paul knew that the world was an alluring place and would drag us away from the things that we should be doing on a regular basis. That is why he sends these doctrinal tidbits to Titus in the first place, and that is why they are so necessary still today.
Keepers at home. This is hard today, but so many women are so amazing. They work one or even two jobs out of the house and still keep the house upon coming home. My wife is an amazing example. She works over 60 hours a week, yet still finds the time to do things for me and others that brings us joy. Now, I will be the first one to say that the man should help with this. I do not believe the Bible says anywhere that the man should not be in the trenches with his wife, taking care of things around the house. Dishes, laundry, kids, cleaning, fixing meals – all of these things should be shared activity in my opinion. Loving your wife means that you help her with the daily tasks that come up. While the culture in Paul’s day looked to the wife to do these things, our culture has changed and we, as men, need to step up and do our part. With both parents often working outside the home, it take both parents to keep the home!
Be good. Such a simple word that goes so far. Be good in all things. This is sound doctrine, but again I think it should apply to men and women. Paul tells the young women to be good because there are so many eyes on them to remain chaste and discreet. Men are more naturally flamboyant, and can fly off the handle easier. But goodness comes from the heart, a heart that is full of the recognition that God has been good to us. If He, being the creator and God of all things can be good to us, how much more should we be good to each other. This kind of goodness speaks of word and deed. Speak good words about others, not mummering and backbiting and complaining. Do good things for others. Be a blessing in all areas of life. This is the direction we should always go – toward good.
Obedient to their own husbands. Our world today is full of advice experts. We see people like Dr Oz, Dr Phil, Jerry Springer and so many others who have advice for us on how to live our lives. The most important advice we can take and follow is that of our spouse, though. This is the person we have to live with, who we have committed our lives to. This is the person we made a vow to love, honor and cherish as long as we both shall live. The obedience Paul talks about is not subservient, though. Way too many men think their wife should be more like a pet than a partner. They should do what they are told without question. I think the correct way to look at this is as a level playing field. The husband has the final authority in the home, But it should be through mutual consent, not a demanding, domineering relationship. We are told to love our wives, and loving does not include putting down or treating with little respect. Love reaches through the messes or decisions and finds common ground. I do think it is important that a woman obey her husband, don’t get me wrong. But the admonition for the husband to love their wives must be carried out first. If the husband is not showing love to the wife, than the marriage will start to break down. Women are much more likely to listen to their husbands when love is in the home, and that is how it should be. Step up guys!
Tomorrow we are finally going to discuss the sound doctrine Paul gives to young men. It’s fascinating to me that he breaks this down by age and gender, as if these principles don’t apply to all of us. I think they do. I may be 69, but many times I am young at heart. So I take seriously what Paul says to the young men as well! I hope you will too.